When my siblings and I were still very young, our parents decided to take us on a road trip around a beautiful country for our summer holiday. They must have planned the itinerary but I was too young to know about the important “details” that it entailed. I was following my parents, and that was fine by me.
One morning, at the beginning of this great trip, my mother told us : “ Today kids, we have a long way to go, it might take up to 10 hours, so keep busy, it’ll pass more quickly.” So, that’s what we did. In the big room (or so it seems at the time) at the back of the camping car, we played, we read, we sang, we slept, we ate… And voilà! There we were, at destination, thinking : « Wow! That went quick!”
A few days later, we were back on the road. My mom turned to us and said: “It shouldn’t be too long today, maybe about two hours?” So, we sat quietly, and waited. Because, yes, two hours, that seemed a short trip.
Oh boy! Were we wrong! Those two hours couldn’t have lasted longer. It was endless! Unbelievable! It was like in the movies, when the kids shout every second: “Are we there yet?”
Right. Now… hmmm... Why was I telling about that? ;)
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I know that for some of you crying is a no go. I have heard you say: ”I would never cry in front of ….”; ‘I would never cry at work, I wait till I’m home”, “I don’t cry, last time I did was…”; “Big boys don’t cry”, “A mature person doesn’t cry”. For many, it is a sign of vulnerability, of immaturity; it is perceived as shameful, weak or baby-ish, not in control of emotions... (I, of course, disagree with that as I tend to cry a lot!)
Can I ask you something?
If that’ your situation, and you don’t allow yourself to cry, once in a while at least, then how do you let your emotions out healthily?
Emotions are meant to be expressed, let out, one way or another.
And if they are not expressed or let out one way or another, they are bottled up inside.
They just pile up, are pushed in, until we explode. Or they turn into anxiety, depression, … maybe even illnesses.
So, you know, why don’t you find time to cry a little bit tonight or this weekend? It might help release some of the overwhelm…
Tip from a loved one: watch a sad film. Not too sad of course, but I know you know which one will do the trick for you. And let it out. . And if you feel the need to, blame your tears on the film.
Might do you good.
Let me know.
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Hi! I'm Mel! I am a life coach, not a writer, but I write articles once in a while which you might like... see under Categories below "articles" and "experiments".