​“This too shall pass”

I heard that phrase for the first time in the 1997 film ‘My best friend’s wedding’ starring Julia Roberts.
In short, the film was about a woman trying to stop her best friend’s wedding to go through as she wanted to marry him herself. All I remember about the scene where this phrase was said is that Julia’s character was distraught. She was sitting on the floor in the corridor of a hotel. I think she was crying.
The bellman asked her: "Are you ok?"
And when she was done sharing what was up, he told her: “My grandmother always told me: this too shall pass*”.
 
I still remember it.
It made so much sense.
A “ahah moment” as Oprah would say.
Such a simple phrase saying so much, helping so much, meaning so much.

It talked about life, about how we see things, about putting things in perspective, about not taking things for granted, about how time heals, about how it flies, …
 
It is not has if life was nothing but a calm and jolly stroll in the park.
Oh no! In my experience, it is more like a crazy roller coaster ride.
It is full of ups and downs, twists and turns, some fun, some not so fun.
 
So when times feel hard, hold on and be patient.
Remember: This too shall pass.

And when times are good, notice it and enjoy them.
Because: This too shall pass.

Sending you love 
Melanie
life coach
with Mel's help
 
*: Pop culture introduced me to “This too shall pass” but obviously, its origins are not from a film. According to Wikipedia, it seems to be a Persian adage. 

How are you Friend?
How is your life at the moment?
 
Is it going at a slow pace, rather mundane, and you’re happy that way?
Or is it going at a slow pace, rather mundane, and you’re feeling bored?
If you’re feeling bored, remember that you have the power to make the changes you need to get excited about your life.
So... what will you do?
 
Is everything kind of ok and you are taking time to appreciate the good things in your life?
Or is everything kind of ok and you only notice what’s going wrong?
If you only notice what’s going wrong, make a point of noticing what’s going right as well.
It’s important.
You just might realise that you are going through a very good period in your life because nothing is ever perfect, and if everything is kind of ok, it sounds to me like everything is going pretty well. Enjoy!
 
Does it feel like you’re in a hurricane? That things are moving faster than you can deal with them?
If so, is it the result of some decisions of yours or of some unexpected life situation(s)?
If it’s your doing, enjoy the ride.
Remember that you needed that « change », that you asked for it, trust and keep going.
If it’s not, you seem to be going through a hard patch.
Do your best, and your best at this time might not be much, and let that be ok. It might even get a bit harder before you find your feet again, before you find a new normal. Just know that you will.
Adaptation or changes might be required. Trust that you can deal with the situation at hand.
Give it the time it needs. Be patient. Give yourself (and other people) a break... and some TLC.
 
Do you feel stuck? Nothing working as you hoped or planned?
Take a break.
If you can, go on a holiday, if you can’t, make the most of your day off.
And go do something completely different, something outside of your comfort zone, outside of your daily routine, something that will focus your attention fully, something that will stop you thinking for a little while. It can be anything: going for a day walk, reading a saga, drawing, ... anything that you can immerse yourself into.
Make sure that: you detach yourself from your usual thoughts by concentrating on the activity you are doing, breathe, use all of your senses and be in the moment. Just be in the moment. Then come back to your life. Let the dust settle and notice how you feel, notice if a new way of seeing things comes up.
If not, repeat.
The important bit here is to change the energy:  your physical energy, your mental energy, the energy of your environment... Get unstuck by shaking things up.
(if you need more examples of things to do, let me know).
 
How are you my Friend?
How is your life at the moment?
 
Melanie
with Mel’s help
life coaching
 
p.s.: If how you feel is not referred to in this short article and you would like some help,  contact me.

First published May 24th 2016

You don’t feel good enough to do THAT THING that you want to do.
So you don’t do it. You do nothing. You are stuck.
That “not good enough” feeling paralyses you.
You let it stop you from taking action and you procrastinate.

You think: “don’t do it, you’re not good enough, you’re going to fail, what will people think of you...”

NOW...
Do you see how that feeling stops you from experiencing life?
Do you see how that feeling stops you from becoming great?
Do you see how that feeling stops you from being all you can be?

STOP AND WONDER...
What if you went ahead and tried anyway?
What if you gave it a go and just decided to do your best, whatever your best is at this point?

Do you see that doing your best IS ALL YOU CAN DO?
Do you see how doing your best IS GOOD ENOUGH?

REMEMBER...
By doing the best you can do now, you allow yourself to learn, practice, get better and, in time, master whatever you put your mind to.
By doing the best you can do now, you open yourself up to becoming the person you really are

And by continuously continuing to do your best, you will see progress in your life and feel proud about yourself.

THERE IS NO NEED TO BE PERFECT!!!!

YOU JUST NEED TO DO YOUR BEST!

...
PLEASE...
Give yourself a chance. Take action and do your best because your best is good enough.

Melanie
​with Mel's help
life coach