An art teacher told me once:
Do you actually think that Picasso showed all of his work? That all of his paintings were great? No. So keep practicing. And among all the work you will do, something good, something great will show up. But for that, you have to keep churning up work.
A published author told me once:
My writing is not better than anyone else’s. I just keep at it, keep working on it. From the first draft, I work and work and work, write and write and rewrite until I am happy with most of it. Anyone can do it, if they put in the work.
Whatever project you want to achieve, whatever it is that you want to make/do, first you have to start, and then you have to keep at it, practice, rehearse, ... and then work and work and work.
Some things are worth putting in the effort.
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I know that for some of you crying is a no go. I have heard you say: ”I would never cry in front of ….”; ‘I would never cry at work, I wait till I’m home”, “I don’t cry, last time I did was…”; “Big boys don’t cry”, “A mature person doesn’t cry”. For many, it is a sign of vulnerability, of immaturity; it is perceived as shameful, weak or baby-ish, not in control of emotions... (I, of course, disagree with that as I tend to cry a lot!)
Can I ask you something?
If that’ your situation, and you don’t allow yourself to cry, once in a while at least, then how do you let your emotions out healthily?
Emotions are meant to be expressed, let out, one way or another.
And if they are not expressed or let out one way or another, they are bottled up inside.
They just pile up, are pushed in, until we explode. Or they turn into anxiety, depression, … maybe even illnesses.
So, you know, why don’t you find time to cry a little bit tonight or this weekend? It might help release some of the overwhelm…
Tip from a loved one: watch a sad film. Not too sad of course, but I know you know which one will do the trick for you. And let it out. . And if you feel the need to, blame your tears on the film.
Might do you good.
Let me know.
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"... But there's some strange thing where you think having a full diary is the same as having a full life, which, of course, it isn't..." India Knight (Sunday times Magazine - 23 June 2019)
In this era of social networks and polarization of ideas, isn't it more important than ever, at a personal level and at a community/social level?
During a training I attended, a wise teacher told us a true story that I would like to share with you as best I can...
A friend of his, let’s call him Sam, was the leader of a software developer team. Their project was going nowhere. Time was flying by but there were no results. They were stuck. When the Big Boss, who was in another city, called and said he was going to come around in a few weeks to see how things were going, Sam knew he had to do something. So he took a day off to think ... The next day, he spoke to his team:
“If we can’t find a solution, we will get fired, and they will hire new people for the project. So let’s think like new people.”
If you have a problem with someone or something and can’t find a solution, stop doing things the way you do them, stop using the same words or communication strategies, hoping that by some miracle they will suddenly start working.
Instead, take a step back and try to see things from another point of view, with new eyes. From there, you are more than likely to find a solution that was there in the first place, from there you might just find the way to communicate in a way that will work.
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Hi! I'm Mel! I am a life coach, not a writer, but I write articles once in a while which you might like... see under Categories below "articles" and "experiments".