It's Sunday morning, and where I live, snow is falling. I feel a bit depleted as all I wanted was to go out and enjoy the blue sky and the warm sun on my face. I needed some relief from... everything?

So what should I do now?
Look at the snow falling and find it beautiful.
Fill the room I'm in with music.
Make coffee number two, decaf this time.
 Choose a book or take my sketchbook out.
And enjoy the day, as it is, anyway.

Nature teaches us to be more flexible and to adapt to things we can't control in life. And as we know, adapting to what is happening, to what is in front of us is one of the keys to managing anxiety.

Take care of yourself today

Melanie
with mel's help
life coach

I know that for some of you crying is a no go. I have heard you say: ”I would never cry in front of ….”; ‘I would never cry at work, I wait till I’m home”, “I don’t cry, last time I did was…”; “Big boys don’t cry”, “A mature person doesn’t cry”. For many, it is a sign of vulnerability, of immaturity; it is perceived as shameful, weak or baby-ish, not in control of emotions... (I, of course, disagree with that as I tend to cry a lot!)

Can I ask you something?
If that’ your situation, and you don’t allow yourself to cry, once in a while at least, then how do you let your emotions out healthily?

Emotions are meant to be expressed, let out, one way or another.

And if they are not expressed or let out one way or another, they are bottled up inside.
They just pile up, are pushed in, until we explode. Or they turn into anxiety, depression, … maybe even illnesses.

So, you know, why don’t you find time to cry a little bit tonight or this weekend? It might help release some of the overwhelm…

Tip from a loved one: watch a sad film. Not too sad of course, but I know you know which one will do the trick for you. And let it out. . And if you feel the need to, blame your tears on the film.

Might do you good.
Let me know.

Melanie
with mels help
Life coach

It’s that time of year again...
The Holiday season...
 It’s just around the corner.
 Are you ready? 
 
On top of all the things you have to do, the preparations, the gifts, the traveling, on top of all the people, planning you have to think about, will you promise me something?
 
Will you promise me to take time for yourself?
But I mean, SERIOUSLY?
Will you think of something that you really want to do (including doing nothing!), plan it, and do it?
No excuses. No I’ll do it later.
Will you?
 
Because you know... if you do something for yourself that makes you feel good, then you will bring this good feeling with you and people around you will feel it too. It’s like propagating a “good vibe” virus...
 
So will you do it?
It’s important.
 
Melanie
With Mel’s help
Life coach