We all know that to make the change(s) we want to make in our life, or to achieve a certain goal, be it big or small, we have to step out of our comfort zone, stop giving ourselves excuses to not do it and take action.
We all know that.
And yet, a day, a week, a month, a year down the line, we wonder why our life is still not going the way we want it to go, why we still feel so miserable, empty...
But deep down, we know why.
And we all know what we have to do.
YOU KNOW WHAT YOU HAVE TO DO!
You know that you just have to:
- DECIDE what you want to do/achieve, make a plan of the first few steps you know you need to take, then go and do it. You'll figure out the next steps as you go along if you don't know what they are just yet.
- STOP giving yourself permission to listen to the: "I don't feel like..." that will only keep you in this "stuck" state.
Any time you feel stuck, go and do something, anything: move your energy, move your body, make your brain work... That'll help take you out of the stuckness.
- GET OUT OF your comfort zone! You won't know how great life is out there until you get there!
As they say: "Life begins at the end of your comfort zone"!
Contact me if you need help with that!
with Mel's help
How are you Friend?
How is your life at the moment?
Is it going at a slow pace, rather mundane, and you’re happy that way?
Or is it going at a slow pace, rather mundane, and you’re feeling bored?
If you’re feeling bored, remember that you have the power to make the changes you need to get excited about your life.
So... what will you do?
Is everything kind of ok and you are taking time to appreciate the good things in your life?
Or is everything kind of ok and you only notice what’s going wrong?
If you only notice what’s going wrong, make a point of noticing what’s going right as well.
You just might realise that you are going through a very good period in your life because nothing is ever perfect, and if everything is kind of ok, it sounds to me like everything is going pretty well. Enjoy!
Does it feel like you’re in a hurricane? That things are moving faster than you can deal with them?
If so, is it the result of some decisions of yours or of some unexpected life situation(s)?
If it’s your doing, enjoy the ride.
Remember that you needed that « change », that you asked for it, trust and keep going.
If it’s not, you seem to be going through a hard patch.
Do your best, and your best at this time might not be much, and let that be ok. It might even get a bit harder before you find your feet again, before you find a new normal. Just know that you will.
Adaptation or changes might be required. Trust that you can deal with the situation at hand.
Give it the time it needs. Be patient. Give yourself (and other people) a break... and some TLC.
Do you feel stuck? Nothing working as you hoped or planned?
Take a break.
If you can, go on a holiday, if you can’t, make the most of your day off.
And go do something completely different, something outside of your comfort zone, outside of your daily routine, something that will focus your attention fully, something that will stop you thinking for a little while. It can be anything: going for a day walk, reading a saga, drawing, ... anything that you can immerse yourself into.
Make sure that: you detach yourself from your usual thoughts by concentrating on the activity you are doing, breathe, use all of your senses and be in the moment. Just be in the moment. Then come back to your life. Let the dust settle and notice how you feel, notice if a new way of seeing things comes up.
If not, repeat.
The important bit here is to change the energy: your physical energy, your mental energy, the energy of your environment... Get unstuck by shaking things up.
(if you need more examples of things to do, let me know).
How are you my Friend?
How is your life at the moment?
with Mel’s help
p.s.: If how you feel is not referred to in this short article and you would like some help, contact me.
If you want to find your own barriers and start to let them go, have a look at my program Looking for your Ideal Partner
When is the best time to start something?
On the first of the month?
On New Year’s Day?
If you think about it, you’ll realise that the best time to start something is NOW, at the exact moment you wonder when it is.
NOW that you’re whole being is shouting: That’s what I want! That’s what I need to do!
NOW that you know it’s true.
Make a plan. Write down the steps you know you have to take (you don’t need to know all of them just yet, they will come in time). Sometimes it will be a big one, sometimes a small one. That’s ok, that’s the way.
If you can make a start, do it NOW! ←That’s the IMPORTANT BIT HERE!
Don’t hesitate, don’t procrastinate, don't make an excuse!
Go for a walk.
Draw your cup of coffee.
Clean that room.
Smoke that last cigarette.
Make that call.
Do that internet search...
Then tomorrow, decide on the next step and take action.
And keep going.
Without wondering why.
Without believing the little voice in your head that wants to sabotage your efforts.
Remember why you want to do that thing you want to do. And start doing it.
Make it a habit.
From now on.
What if you tried?
with Mel’s help
Hi! I'm Mel! I am a life coach, not a writer, but I write articles once in a while which you might like... see under Categories below "articles" and "experiments".