Who are you?
We all wear many hats in our life; that is, we have different roles depending on the people we are with, the activity we are doing and the situation we are in:
wife/husband, sister/brother, mom/dad, friend, salesperson, student, carer, healer, coach, teacher, doctor, baker, writer, nurse, artist, translator, cook, musician, entrepreneur, accountant, web designer, athlete, photographer, cyclist, saviour, prankster, raconteur, observer, volunteer, helper, listener, speaker, activist, scientist, physiotherapist, postman, financial advisor, globetrotter,...
So which are your roles?
Make a list...
If you had to put them in order of importance, what would it look like?
If you had to put them in order of the amount of time you dedicate to each of them in your daily life, what would the order be?
Is the most important role, for you in your life at this point in time, at the top of this list?
If not, is it ok for now?
If it’s not ok, what little step can you take today to change things for the better?
Who do you want to be?
Is there a “role” missing from your list?
One that you are dreaming of?
One that is in your head but which does not feel possible... yet?
Think about it...
You might want to try some “roles” next to your name.
Say: Jennifer, best friend or Jennifer, landscape designer or Jennifer, dancer
Yes. Try some until you find one that, when you put it next to your name, makes you feel excited, happy, motivated...
What is it?
What little step can you take today for this “role” to come into your life?
Wake up! It’s time!
Time for what?
Time to do that thing...
That thing you want to start/stop, create, change, try...
5/10/20/30 minutes is all you need for the first step.
Do it now.
Do it for yourself.
Do it for the people you love.
Do it for your past, present and future.
Do it now. This moment.
When you are done, notice how you feel now that you made a move on that thing.
Tomorrow, take the next step.
You don’t need to know today all the steps you need to take to get to where you want to go.
You just need to know which step to take today.
Go ahead. Do it.
with Mel’s help
p.s.: Tomorrow won’t be too late, but why not make a start TODAY.
p.p.s.: Click here to read my short text: "The perfect moment"
I am just wondering…
When you think about your life, can you identify a period where you had a great time?
You know, that period of your life, that makes you think: Ahhh, those were the days...
When was it?
What was happening in your life at the time?
What were you doing?
Who were you?
What about it makes you feel that it was a great period?
How is your life different from then?
In a few words, how can you describe the feeling you get when you think about it:
is it fun, love, challenge, adventure, hope, curiosity, newness, serenity, learning, friends, ... what is it?
What thing could you do today to bring a bit of that energy back into your life?
When you think back to that period, if you go through it a bit more in details,
can you remember how you were actually feeling at the time?
Did you feel that life was great or is it your memory of it, a certain detachment, that makes it look like it was?
Now, can you see your present life from another perspective?
Can you see that you might be, right here right now, creating this great period for your future memories...?
And if you can’t identify a great period in your life, now is the time to do something about it...
with Mel's help
p.s.: read more about the theme of the month by clicking here
It was sometime in the 80’s, on a cold Canadian winter evening...
We were sat in a nice little restaurant where they were making an amazing oven pizza (to this day, one of the best I have ever eaten)...
We were chatting, eating our pizzas, soft drinks for us and a nice glass of red wine for my mom. There was some heat coming from the oven – I can remember being a little bit hypnotized by the fire roaring inside it. The ambiance in the restaurant was relaxed, we were all in a light and jolly mood, laughing and enjoying the meal.
That’s when it happened.
Out of the blue, my mom, putting her thumb and index together to form an “o” said to us:
“That is a perfect moment. Don’t you think? Nice company, nice wine, good meal...”
We were a bit taken by surprise by that phrase.
But quickly, we understood, as there was no real need to explain more than that.
It was something to be noticed, experienced. That’s all.
As for that moment, all our problems seemed far away;
as for that moment, life was good;
as for that moment, we were enjoying the present moment.
Because they come and go, even if you feel you are going through a hard time, you very well might be able to notice “a perfect moment” passing by. Look out!
with mel's help
Time for holidays.
You go away for two weeks, somewhere nice, somewhere different.
Maybe you rented a flat or a house in the countryside or in a city.
Maybe you are visiting friends, or family. Maybe you are traveling by yourself.
Everything is new around you: this little village, these flowers, the views, the sea (maybe?)...
You walk,, or cycle, or skate everywhere...
You don’t feel like watching TV or surfing the internet (!?) You just want to explore the area, read a book, draw, write, eat, enjoy the views, talk with friends... You relax.
After a few days of this, you are rested. Fully rested. You have completely switched off. Your daily problems have momentarily disappeared. If they show up, they seem infinitely small. Specks. Grains of sand.
You feel like yourself again.
La vie est belle.
And then, you notice...
It might be very light at first, or very loud, but you hear it.
You hear your heart’s desires, clear as day.
You know what you want to do about that problem (job/relationship/life purpose/feeling of emptiness...)...
You really know in that moment what your priorities are.
And the solution is so simple, you don’t understand why it seemed so complicated before.
You make a decision, then and there. And you go on enjoying the best holiday ever.
Take good note of your decision. That decision, made when your head was clear of all stress and worries, is the real thing.
When you go back home, back to reality, take action.
Take action before your daily life starts overwhelming you again.
Take action and trust your heart’s desire.
The answer is in you.
Leave your phone at home.
Look. Smell. Listen. Feel.
Go back home when you have emptied your head.
Repeat every day.
Hi! I'm Mel! I am a life coach, not a writer, but I have been writing some articles which you might like... see under Categories below "articles" and "experiments".