Have you done experiment #1?
If not, please do so now. Click here for details
If yes, what did you find out?
Any patterns? Any repetitive thoughts?
I bet you found out that you talk to yourself all day (if you didn’t know already).
That your thoughts rarely stop, if ever, popping up.
It is also possible that they are not all very nice thoughts, I mean, that you are not being
very nice to yourself.
Chances are, you found out that there is one or two specific thoughts that come to you all the time.
Like in a loop. Round and round.
It could be:
I am so tired. I’m not good enough.
Life is s*%$t.
I am not a machine.
I’ve have had enough,
or something like that...
That’s normal, if normal means that most people experience this as well.
So, the experiment this week, if you choose to do it, is to start and question the truth of these thoughts,
be more specific and change the repetitive ones that are not supportive.
For example, if you tell yourself: "I am so tired".
Are you really that tired? Is it true at this point in time?
If yes, what is so tiring specifically?
Listen honestly to your answer and make a change: slow down, take a break, ask for help, go on a holiday, treat yourself...
If not, when did you start repeating that phrase over and over?
Was it during a very busy time? When was it exactly?
If it’s not true, how are you actually feeling?
You might realise that you are ok at the moment.
And since you are not actually tired, change that phrase to a positive one
and stop hypnotizing yourself into believing that you are tired.
Let’s take another example: "I’m not good enough".
Good enough at/for what specifically?
Is that true?
If you go around telling yourself you are not good enough, how do you think that is going to make you feel? What do you think you will notice? How will that influence your choices?
Every time you hear yourself saying: "I am not good enough", stop, check in and say something supportive.
Like: I am doing the best I can do today, I am worthy, I am learning to ____, I am in the process of ,
I’m getting better at this, What if I tried?...
In short, whatever your repetitive thought is, all you have to do is:
Catch yourself using it. Stop. And replace it with a positive one.
You’re going to need to make an effort at first but
know that you can quickly make a positive change in your life with this simple exercise.
Try it and let me know how it works for you!
If you need some help, contact me!
with mel's help
Hi! I'm Mel! I am a life coach, not a writer, but I have been writing some articles which you might like... see under Categories below "articles" and "experiments".